Sunday, June 20th, 2010 at 5:50 am
I already posted this question but left out some details…..
I am seeing my boyfriends baby for the first time tonight. It will be the first time that he’s going to spend the night with him. He doesn’t have a car seat but said he has to get one real soon. I wanted to surprise him with a car seat for him. Do you think that would be a nice thing to do???
added details: I dated this guy 4 years ago for 3 years. We are in a very established relationship and have been dating now for 4 months. He hasn’t had many visits with the child because there was a paternity test done and the mother didn’t want him to see him a whole lot till that was done. Now that it has come back and the child is his, he’s going to start weekend visits. Its not that he wasnt concerned for his childs safety…..
the mother is bringing him tonight…. so he wont be without a car seat.
Tuesday, May 4th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
Ok So this is for my soon to be husband. About a year and a half ago he had a child with his ex. ( there was no fighting more then raising a voice in this releationship) Everything was was great until one day when the child was 2 months old. They had just got done shopping at the mall as a family and as my bf was taking stuff into the house expecting his babies mama to be getting his daughter and being right behind him.. he turned around to seeing her get into the drivers seat and driving off. This was the last time he saw his daughter. He thought she must have forgot something but when she didnt return he called her parents to find out she went there. Might I also add she never worked the whole 3 years they were together. about a month before their kid was born he lost his job due to poor economy. but was looking everyday for a new one and bills were paid. When he talked to her on the phone she said she needed a few days to think and he said he drove to her parents for them to talk and left on a good note. when he got back to his house he found her dad in his house taking his babies crib and her belonging. He then said 2 weeks later he went to her parents house and asked to see his daughter. She wouldnt allow him and called the cops saying he was trying to break in which was a lie. then a few days later he came home to relize she had broke in his house and stole all of the pictures of his daughter and had put a restraining order on him saying he abused he and that she was afraid for her life and a bunch of lies. he missed his daughters first xmas and birthday. she hit him up with child support which he is back on 3000 but the reason for that is because she lived in a very small town and her family is well known there and is family friends with the judge, he has tried to get a lawyer but there is only 3 in the area and none will represent him because they ARE either related or friends with the family. This is why it has been son long. He is so depressed and feels like there is no hope. How can I help him? I NEED to find a way to get his daughter back before it is to late. This is in West Plains MO.. Any legal help would be amazing. and also he is on probation because he tried to call once and she called the cops saying he broke his restraining order but he didnt leave a message or even get ahold of anyone but when he went to court and told the judge that she hit him with 2 years probation. PLEASE HELP!!
Dont waste your time to answer if your going to be negative. I know my partner and KNOW he isnt abusive. Her family didn’t like him because he was from the city and not a country boy and They lived with his brother and his wife for a year and I they even said that they never fought .. that she was a quiet girl.. She suffered from panic attacks but that was all. She put a restraining order on everyone in his family.. mom dad step mom four brothers.. their wives.. …. he filed for visitation and she filed for sole custody. it hasnt went to trail yet because of the restraining order which is set until see stops breast feeding. when she took the photos of his daughter from his house she left a note saying to forget he ever had a daughter. This was planned and plotted. We think she may have either been cheating or suffered post part um depression. and his child support his paid monthly he just has some back child support because the judge set it rediculasy high. and a lawyer wont travel
and it is my biz.. im his best friend and i need to do my best to help him through situations like this.. imagine if you were in his shoes. his probation officer cried when he told her the story of why he was in there. He is not lying or anything like that. This girl is sick and she wanted people to feel sorry for her and attention. I am a mother myself and this woman has prohibited her child from one of the most loving caring fathers there is out there and trust me they are very hard to come by. I pray that no one has to ever see what I have seen this man cry for.. I hope no one is ever hurt like the way he was.. Every Thing I say is truth..cant you awnser based on that? Why are you so quick to judge?
Monday, April 26th, 2010 at 12:59 pm
My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have a 10 month old daughter. I have always known he is emotional and always wants his way…but he seems to be getting on my back about everything recently. He had a lousy childhood; his parents left him unsupervised at 10 years old to work in another country, then he left the country to come to the states at 22. He has no family here and has been back to visit his parents twice in 3 years. His mother is emotionally manipulative and has some of the same tendencies as he does, especially melting down when she doesn’t get her way. He works long hours and takes lots of side jobs, but when he comes home, he complains about how tired he is and how little time he spends with us…but he keeps taking side jobs. I got a job and will start teaching in September but he doesn’t want another person to watch the baby. He only wants his parents over here to watch her. They have gone for a visa 3x and have always been refused, so it’s unlikely this will ever happen. It’s always something I do wrong for him. When I give the baby cereal, he wants her to have solid food (and vise versa). But he takes no responsibility to feed her or change her himself. Any time I ask him to hold the baby while I do something, she ends up in her crib. If I wear long sleeves, he wants me to wear short. He complains about so many asinine things, but his goal is to get me to comply with all of his requests…he actually told me "If you just did things I told you…you wouldn’t tick me off." He was indirectly trying to get me to monitor and control his emotions so he doesn’t have to. He doesn’t want to talk to anyone about his past. It took me 6 years to figure out his childhood and there are still surprises. I have suggested he talk to a pastor or someone else he trusts, but he refuses and I am really tired of having all his frustration about work, business, lack of family, and everything else be put on me disguised as constant criticism of who I am and what I do.
Thursday, April 15th, 2010 at 10:01 pm
Basically we shared baby items we no longer need. Few years ago I was given a bassinet and baby clothes that I was not aware that I was suppose to return. We were doing what I thought we had always done; pass down the baby items we no longer need. The mother calls leaves a nasty message involving my husband, etc. Husband fires by responding to the message she left. It’s been over a year now since I’ve spoken to my friend. I know the mother is mean spirited believes no one can have more than her daughters; etc. It was always like this growing up. I didn’t have much growing up and the roles have now reversed. I tried emailing this friend about six months or so ago and have yet to hear from her. B/c I think a friendship is more valuable than a 0 bassinet. I realize this could have been avoided if the mom hadn’t left the message she left. I don’t want to lose the friendship but what do I do? Oh yeah..over the years I’ve never really heard from them unless there was something (crisis) going on; especially the mother. My friend has gotten better the last 2-3 years before all this went down. Since sharing with her how I felt not only hearing from her when things were going bad. Whenever we would talk we would pick up just like we’ve talked yesterday. I miss her!
the message was a very nasty message. How my husband couldn’t afford baby items, etc…which wasn’t the case!
They live two hours away. Which was the conflict in meeting up toreturn the bassinet to begin with to avoid the drama. Our daughter hated that bassinet anyway! My husband has asked me several times if she’s called. I stand by my husband and know she shouldn’t left the msg.
