My husband doesn't want to spend any $ on our baby…but planning a trip to Germany!?

Tuesday, May 11th, 2010 at 10:06 am  
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My husband and I are due with our first baby in June. He is so bad with money that I begged him to save for our honeymoon, and he spent it all and we ended up staying in hotels in Gatlinburg. And he didn’t even have THAT planned! Now we are expecting our first baby in June. He is planning on filing bankruptcy because he is so upside down on his mortgage (mostly because he took out 0k second mortgage and blew it on trips overseas and a sailboat). We got in a huge fight yesterday because he says things like cribs and changing tables are convoluted lies taught to women over hundreds of years that they need for babies…. and got furious and said "guess I’ll never have any money". Left me in tears because I just don’t know what to do. I just overheard him in the other room planning a trip to Germany with his best friend for the huge beer festival there…3 months after our baby is born when our apartment lease is up and we are supposed to be moving. And he is not planning on ME going! What do I do? I’m so lost! I’m a conservative Christian…I don’t even believe in drinking and he goes and gets trashed all of the time. I know I should just blame myself since the Bible says to be "equally yoked" but he pretended to have changed before we ever started dating. Now I am in my 3rd trimester and have nothing for this baby except a stroller. What do I do????

i think i have this figured out a little help please?

Thursday, April 29th, 2010 at 3:21 pm  
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i you saw my other question let me know what you think..ok i decided that im going to just do what i gotta do im a smart girl but i made a mistake beliving he would love me and now i think i should just deal with the pain contiue to go to school and worry about me and my child and put him last.im not saying im ready ot leave him yet but i think if i stop letting him come first in my life someday i will be strong enough to walk away..i have enough to worry about with being in college. classes and my baby are my main prority and i know talking to him will only start a fight so im just going to turn to my best friend kentrel he’s been begging me to come move in with him and let him take the load off wold i be wrogn for doing so ?

and if you dont konw the story here you go ……

ok i’ve been with this guy for almost a year and were having a baby now.but still i feel like were going no where.he’s been hurt alot and just doesnt want to think about our future he just wants to wait and sees what happens.he was with this one girl for five years and they have a daughter togehter and now were having a daughter but i feel like he regrets my daughter.i asked him to night if there was anything he regreted about us he said no and he wasn’t thinkin of my feelings he was being honest.but he won’t help me finacially at all he says he wont let another woman take him for his money and i understand that truly i do,it just hurts that after all this time he wouldnt trust me that way and i only asked him for money once and it was only 20 dollars and to night i asked for help paying my cell phone bill and he said he cant help me because he’s payin for the car his baby momma driving he doesnt want his daughter walking which i understand but when i asked him to help me buy our baby car seat and stuff he put it off to the last thing.i just feel like his past is holdin us back and i want to be with him and i know he wants to be with me but i dont know how long im going to have to stick around for him to see that all i want is for him to love me because i love him with all my heart i dont know what to do and i’ve spent my entire pregnancy crying.he says im pushing him away because sometimes i get sad and shut him out and i dont want to i just dont know what else to do to deal with the pain,and to make him see me for who i am and not who he’s afriad i will become.

  
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