I know it may sound awful, but my child’s father and I were not dating when I got pregnant and have no intention to now that baby is here.
During the pregnancy, the father (Chris) wanted to have nothing to do with me. He even said he wanted to put the baby up for adoption. I told him I did not want to do this, and that even though it would be hard, I could raise the baby on my own.
He said that once baby was born he would want a DNA test, which I was fine with. After my son was born, I offered for Chris to sign the birth certificate while in the hospital. He said he wanted to wait until he got the DNA test.
Well now, he says he doesn’t want to get the DNA test because he just "knows" that baby is his son. That is all fine and well, but he’s all of a sudden gone from not wanting to be involved to wanting to take my 7 week old baby out on his own with him.
He is being very controlling (I.E yesterday wanted me to take baby to his family friend’s house. I said no because baby hadn’t been sleeping very well and needed rest. Chris then replied with "He can sleep in his car seat, he’ll be fine.")
I know he does not have babys best interest in mind-there have been other incidents too.
My question is, can I say that I do not want his name on the birth certificate? He is not responsible and I just don’t feel comfortable with him being alone with my son.
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I already posted this question but left out some details….. I am seeing my boyfriends baby for the first time tonight. It will be the first time that he’s going to spend the night with him. He doesn’t have a car seat but said he has to get one real soon. I wanted to surprise him with a car seat for him. Do you think that would be a nice thing to do???
added details: I dated this guy 4 years ago for 3 years. We are in a very established relationship and have been dating now for 4 months. He hasn’t had many visits with the child because there was a paternity test done and the mother didn’t want him to see him a whole lot till that was done. Now that it has come back and the child is his, he’s going to start weekend visits. Its not that he wasnt concerned for his childs safety….. the mother is bringing him tonight…. so he wont be without a car seat.
My younger sister is in an abusive relationship. We have no family history that would make her believe that it’s normal for a person to treat her this way. We came from a middle class family, both of our parents worked to provide us with a good life. I’m sure they argued, all couples do, but to this day I can’t remember a time when I witnessed one. She got out of the relationship for about a month and she and their son stayed with me and my family. My husband and I have four kids so it was a little crowded. We gave her a room, and watched the baby for her to work and even go out with friends.
One night I was babysitting for her to work, she called at about 11pm to say that she was going to a friends and would be home within the hour. I went ahead and went to sleep, the baby was asleep and she has her own set of keys. Well when I woke the next morning about 4am to see my husband off to work, I noticed that the baby’s car seat was gone, so I went to her room and they weren’t their. She called hours later to say they had gone back to her boyfriends house.
I understand that she wants a family of her own, but I don’t understand why she wants to be with him. He treated her badly before she was pregnant. Verbal, mental, and physical abuse. She thought it would get better when she told him she was pregnant. .He accused her of cheating and the abuse never stopped. (The baby is now 6mo old ) He slapped her so hard once that she fell against the baby crib with the baby in it. He has left her home with a fire burning while he went out that almost caught the house on fire and the fire dept. had to be called out. She has gone to the police once but then refused to sign the papers. He has broken her heart with cheating and bruised her body with his slaps and punches. I am not only worried about her but also about my nephew. Not only does he abuse her but the home environment and grounds aren’t safe or sanitary for a baby or child. The house that he lives in isn’t much more that a shack. They had a TV that quit working because of a nest of mice had made it their Home, along with a S*** load of roaches. He works on cars as a hobby and there are cars and parts, rusted metal , and broken glass covering what should be a yard. I’m not sure what to do. I’ve tried talking to her, giving her print outs on abuse and effects on children nothing is getting through to her. I don’t want her to end up in the hospital because of him. I also don’t want the baby to end up in the hospital because of some sort of abuse or neglect. I don’t know what to do anymore. Just last week she called the police because he tampered with her car by pulling wires so that it wouldn’t crank. She and I stayed up all that night because she was truely afraid of him. My husband was at work, otherwise this man wouldn’t have even come near my house. She went and filed a report, but now, not even a week later she is back with him. I know he has some kind of control over her, but I thought she had been away from him long enough to move on. My mother was in a relationship like that with my biological father, it took her having me to move on. She remarried a wonerfull man that adopted me and they went on and had my brother and then my sister. My sister has never known this kind of life until this man.
My fiancee’s parents have already bought us a bassinet, car seat and a swing. His sister has already bought us booties for the baby. Is that there way of accepting it or coping with it.
My friend is babysitting a 2 year old for a friend of hers and when the baby was dropped off this morning the mom forgot diapers and toys for the baby, so my friend asked me if I could drive her over to the moms house so she can get all the things she needs for her. I really have no problem driving over to the house, but we have to take the baby with us. Im almost positive she doesnt have a car seat, and that if we got into a car accident my insurance wouldnt cover her. Its also I dont want that on my conscience if we get into an accident and she wasnt in a car seat and she got hurt. I would never live it down. Oh yeah I forgot to mention Im only 17. And I forgot to ask if I was just overreacting
I do have 6 kids in my house hold My sister is 17 and has a son i believe he is 4 months. She leaves him with my wife for 2 or 3days at a time usually on weekends. When the baby is with my sister all she does is complain about him criing. I know that being a single parent is not easy, but I do not think she is even triing. My sister calls my wife in the middle of the night, wanting her to go over her house and get Adam. The last time my wife went to pick up Adam she said that he was in his car seat on the porch by himself criing. If my wife tries to give her advice my sister starts yelling. This morning when my sister left him here criing my wife gave him some baby food and he went to sleep. I am not real sure how much a 4 mth old should weigh but he ways 12 pds. my baby is his age and she weights 17 pds. My wife and I think something should be done, but not sure what we can do. Should we call CPS or just try to get a lawyer and take the baby from her? My parents will not have anything to do with this matter because my sister had sex before she was married. We are cancerned for this baby and my sister. When my sister talks about Adam she normally calls him "it" take it, its hungry I get so mad at her for calling him it. Oh when Adam is at my house he hardly ever cries. My wife says Adam and our baby usually wake up criing about 10:30pm she changes them and feeds them and they both go back to sleep
