Wednesday, June 30th, 2010 at 3:25 am
He’s lied and kept secrets from me (not cheating but w/ alcohol, feeling stressed about not being able to provide for the family- basically lack of communication on his part). We discussed it and I thought we were making progress. A few weeks ago I found a phone # from an old co-worker of his. A female who I’ve never liked or trusted. She seemed way to interested in my husband. We went out w/ her and her husband once about 3-4 years ago. This woman left his workplace just over 2 years ago. Anyway, to make a long story short..I find this #. At first my husband lies and says its old and must have been laying under his car seat. Well, after much prodding & pushing he admits he called her. She apparently didn’t answer and he didn’t leave a message and they never spoke or met up.He says he wanted to see how her job was going and to tell her he has another baby on the way, because "he’s proud & excited" and thought she’d like to know.. He says he’s completely satisfied w/ our marriage, life, etc. He loves me and would never jeopardize what we have. He says it was a stupid mistake and poor judgment and the call meant absolutely nothing. So, do I believe him and try to let this go? Or so I suspect more? My rational side tells me he has no time to meet up w/ this woman, except during his lunch hour..which it unlikely. Or so I want to believe. Any thoughts?
He’s allowed to drink and rarely gets drunk. I found alcohol bottles in his car. He said it was to relieve stress.
Friday, May 21st, 2010 at 5:46 am
I met a man at work we hit it off .He told me he was divorced.We dated for two years .I even met the ex .I found out he was a liar and that they were just separated, days after finding out I was pregnant.He did not want the baby because it is a child out of his marriage and that he is going to work it out with his wife and join the Jehovah’s Witness organization.I had the baby alone.She is now nine months.I have not ask him for anything and he has only seen her 4 times. He refuses to sign her birth certificate.I did not file for child support because we work together. Its kind of awkward.He is always in my face trying to talk to me like we don’t have a child together.One time I brought the baby to the job he snatched the car seat, like he was acknowledging her in front of our co-workers and stared criticizing her features,like saying she should be cuter than this.My co- workers do not know we have a baby together.I ask him why don’t he come to visit his child? He says that he is still attracted to me ,and is afraid that we might end up sleeping together.He wants to wait until his wife is comfortable with the baby so she can come along for the visit.What should I do.His wife hasn’t lived with him in two years .Is he just lying so he does not have to acknowledge my baby.Everything is Jehovah this .Jehovah that.
Saturday, May 15th, 2010 at 8:12 pm
We were all having a wonderful time in the bath tub just relaxing and bathing and then I felt so guilty that my husband and my grandpa had to watch our baby. I know that isn’t a man’s job, but they were so nice to do it anyways. We must have been bathing for atleast 30 minutes. How can I repay my husband and my grandfather for being so nice to babysit?
Tuesday, May 4th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
Ok So this is for my soon to be husband. About a year and a half ago he had a child with his ex. ( there was no fighting more then raising a voice in this releationship) Everything was was great until one day when the child was 2 months old. They had just got done shopping at the mall as a family and as my bf was taking stuff into the house expecting his babies mama to be getting his daughter and being right behind him.. he turned around to seeing her get into the drivers seat and driving off. This was the last time he saw his daughter. He thought she must have forgot something but when she didnt return he called her parents to find out she went there. Might I also add she never worked the whole 3 years they were together. about a month before their kid was born he lost his job due to poor economy. but was looking everyday for a new one and bills were paid. When he talked to her on the phone she said she needed a few days to think and he said he drove to her parents for them to talk and left on a good note. when he got back to his house he found her dad in his house taking his babies crib and her belonging. He then said 2 weeks later he went to her parents house and asked to see his daughter. She wouldnt allow him and called the cops saying he was trying to break in which was a lie. then a few days later he came home to relize she had broke in his house and stole all of the pictures of his daughter and had put a restraining order on him saying he abused he and that she was afraid for her life and a bunch of lies. he missed his daughters first xmas and birthday. she hit him up with child support which he is back on 3000 but the reason for that is because she lived in a very small town and her family is well known there and is family friends with the judge, he has tried to get a lawyer but there is only 3 in the area and none will represent him because they ARE either related or friends with the family. This is why it has been son long. He is so depressed and feels like there is no hope. How can I help him? I NEED to find a way to get his daughter back before it is to late. This is in West Plains MO.. Any legal help would be amazing. and also he is on probation because he tried to call once and she called the cops saying he broke his restraining order but he didnt leave a message or even get ahold of anyone but when he went to court and told the judge that she hit him with 2 years probation. PLEASE HELP!!
Dont waste your time to answer if your going to be negative. I know my partner and KNOW he isnt abusive. Her family didn’t like him because he was from the city and not a country boy and They lived with his brother and his wife for a year and I they even said that they never fought .. that she was a quiet girl.. She suffered from panic attacks but that was all. She put a restraining order on everyone in his family.. mom dad step mom four brothers.. their wives.. …. he filed for visitation and she filed for sole custody. it hasnt went to trail yet because of the restraining order which is set until see stops breast feeding. when she took the photos of his daughter from his house she left a note saying to forget he ever had a daughter. This was planned and plotted. We think she may have either been cheating or suffered post part um depression. and his child support his paid monthly he just has some back child support because the judge set it rediculasy high. and a lawyer wont travel
and it is my biz.. im his best friend and i need to do my best to help him through situations like this.. imagine if you were in his shoes. his probation officer cried when he told her the story of why he was in there. He is not lying or anything like that. This girl is sick and she wanted people to feel sorry for her and attention. I am a mother myself and this woman has prohibited her child from one of the most loving caring fathers there is out there and trust me they are very hard to come by. I pray that no one has to ever see what I have seen this man cry for.. I hope no one is ever hurt like the way he was.. Every Thing I say is truth..cant you awnser based on that? Why are you so quick to judge?
Monday, April 26th, 2010 at 12:59 pm
My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have a 10 month old daughter. I have always known he is emotional and always wants his way…but he seems to be getting on my back about everything recently. He had a lousy childhood; his parents left him unsupervised at 10 years old to work in another country, then he left the country to come to the states at 22. He has no family here and has been back to visit his parents twice in 3 years. His mother is emotionally manipulative and has some of the same tendencies as he does, especially melting down when she doesn’t get her way. He works long hours and takes lots of side jobs, but when he comes home, he complains about how tired he is and how little time he spends with us…but he keeps taking side jobs. I got a job and will start teaching in September but he doesn’t want another person to watch the baby. He only wants his parents over here to watch her. They have gone for a visa 3x and have always been refused, so it’s unlikely this will ever happen. It’s always something I do wrong for him. When I give the baby cereal, he wants her to have solid food (and vise versa). But he takes no responsibility to feed her or change her himself. Any time I ask him to hold the baby while I do something, she ends up in her crib. If I wear long sleeves, he wants me to wear short. He complains about so many asinine things, but his goal is to get me to comply with all of his requests…he actually told me "If you just did things I told you…you wouldn’t tick me off." He was indirectly trying to get me to monitor and control his emotions so he doesn’t have to. He doesn’t want to talk to anyone about his past. It took me 6 years to figure out his childhood and there are still surprises. I have suggested he talk to a pastor or someone else he trusts, but he refuses and I am really tired of having all his frustration about work, business, lack of family, and everything else be put on me disguised as constant criticism of who I am and what I do.
